Research on Women’s Use of Vibes
The Good Vibes blog has an interesting post on research on women’s use of vibrators. If you’re reading this blog I’m assuming that you’ve used a vibe, and I’m hoping that you’re one that cleans your toys often! I have a box of baby wipes next to my bed for quick toy and after sex clean-up.
How far should I insert my vibe?? Ask Babeland
In case you’ve ever wondered, Babeland.com answers the question, “How far should I insert my vibrator?”
Moregasm
Our friends over at Babeland have a fantastic new book, Moregasm, written by Babeland’s hot lesbian owners, Claire Cavanaugh and Rachel Venning. I am just DYING to get my hands on a copy because you don’t see many sex books written by lesbians for a mainstream mostly hetero audience.
Babeland is running a contest to give you the book and the ten top toys recommended. Read all about it and enter HERE.
Author, Rachel Venning, is doing a reading and signing at local Oakland bookstore Diesel on Tuesday, Feb 16th. I’d love to be there, but I have a class that night.
Electrical Play
Polaris asked for advice on electrical play on THIS picture.
hello my wife and i was trying estim and it works great on me but she gets nothing out of it is there a spot where she would get something out of it ??
That is a very good question. First of all, electricity is a really interesting and unique sensation that not everyone is into. I happen to be an electrical slut, but not everyone likes the feeling of e-stim. If your partner doesn’t like the feeling of electricity, it doesn’t really matter where on the body you do it. Your partner is just never going to get anything out of it.
Assuming that your partner does like the feeling of electricity there are some things to keep in mind. First of all, it can take a lot of practice in order to get the electricity to stimulate an orgasm. You want to aim for the pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle in women. There’s a useful picture HERE.
You will want to use the sticky electrode tens pads and try placing them on different places around the cunt to see what is going to best suit your own personal anatomy. The placement in that picture looks like it would stimulate the PC muscle, but I would probably move the top set of tens pads to the labia or the area just above the clit. Make sure that you have a positive and negative set of pads on each side so that the electricity goes vertically through the area instead of horizontally across. Or do set it up so that the electricity goes horizontally across, maybe that will get you off.
You might also want to just try a vaginal or anal electrode. In the picture and video of me getting off on electrical play I don’t actually have the electricity going through my PC muscle. It’s going through my labia and was strong enough that it stimulated my clit.
Not everyone is going to be able to get a hands-free orgasm from e-stim, and it will take some experimentation to find the right spots to stimulate on your body. Good luck and have fun!!
Sex Toy Newsreel (not really, but I thought it sounded sexy)
The insiders at Babeland let you in on their not-so-secret desires for sex toys. What do the people who work around sex toys every day like to use for sex and masturbation? New Staff Picks
Better Than Chocolate!? How does the Better Than Chocolate vibe compare to actual chocolate? Read this review!
What sex toys would you need if you were stuck on a desert island? How would you make lube and toys out of coconuts and twigs? Would you masturbate rocks?? Let’s just hope you packed these sex toys.
Babeland totebags, for your eco-friendly green resuable bag fetish. Why don’t I have one yet??
And some sexy butch pics
“Toyz for Trannies” (Babeland’s words)
I’m never too sure how to best support for transfriends when it comes to sex acts and sexuality. It seems like it’s all so individual, and I’ve accidentally offended people with my assumptions too often. To make this more difficult for trans allies, or at least for me, it seems like sometimes my transfriends aren’t totally sure what they want or how to get what they want out of their own bodies. I’ve always had a difficult time with these conversations, because I don’t want to push things or inquire about what’s in their pants inappropriately, but I’m hoping to become a better supporter and ally. So I think for now I’m going to leave it to the professionals. Babeland just posted this blog about lube and barriers for transfolk, and it seems like good advice. What do you all think? I’m looking for honest feedback here.
Link Round Up: Eco-sex Toys
A lot of people are talking about sex toys that are more environmentally friendly!
Babeland’s eco friendly toy selections
Essin’ Em reviews Babeland’s Eco Friendly kit
Earth Angel Green Vibrator by Babaland and by The Lesbian Lifestyle, powered by hand crank!
Geeks at Babeland love the Form 6 Vibe
Glass dildos are eco friendly and many are locally made, or at least more local than a lot of products
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Sexy creative solutions from HotMovieForHer
I didn’t see any that are actually colored green!
Hello Kitty!!
Hello Kitty Vibe
The Hello Kitty vibe is back and I have one in the mail to the cyber-dyke studio. I’m really excited to see and try the new version. To help promote Kitty-chan, Babeland is sponsoring a Hello Kitty Vibe photo contest! You bet I’m going to enter a million awesome photos of my adventures with the Kitty.
Where toys go to die
What do you do with your old broken sex toys? It’s generally not a good idea to just throw any type of electronic device in the garbage. I don’t know about anyone else, but to me it just feels weird to throw them out with the rest of the garbage.
Babeland shows the process of sex toy recycling in the UK.
Blogger, My Sex Professor, has a sex toy cemetery for broken toys.
And best of all, Recycle Your Sex Toy is a non-profit that can take your toys, properly recycle the different materials properly and send you a gift card.
Sexual Astrology
March 21st is International Astrology Day. Whether or not you believe in it, astrology is fun and can be used to analyze your sexual style. What’s your sign? I’m a lusty little Gemini. Babeland explains what it all means in their Sexual Astrology guide.
Have a better oral experience
With your face buried in her cunt and your ears muffled by her creamy thighs, it can be hard to talk about how things are going. So look for more subtle signs of her enjoyment. If she raises her hips to meet your mouth, that is a very good sign. A lubricating vagina and swelling vulva and labia that spread open as they become engorged are a sure sign that she’s responding favorably. So is a growing clitoris. An all over skin flush, rapid breathing, and writhing are clues. Clutching the sheets is excellent, and so are hands on the back of your head pushing you in for more.
We all started somewhere, and I know there are plenty of female readers (18+ of course!) that have not had much experience with other women. I think lesbians give better oral, because we know what feels good in our bodies and can more easily imagine how it must feel for another woman! Babeland has a new guide, How to Go Down on a Woman: Become a Cunnilingus Expert, which has tips for even the most seasoned pros. For example, I’ve never used lube on a woman I was going down on, but I don’t see any reason why I can’t give it a try. I am a huge fan of lube, after all. Anyone want to come over and experiment with me?
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Gifts this year
I don’t know how other people are feeling about gifts this year, but I think sex toys, lube and other erotic items always make great gifts. It is always difficult to choose a sex toy for someone else, and some women even find it difficult to choose a sex toy for themselves. Considering that most sex toy retailers have a very limited return policy it can seem like a risky gift. I think you should take that chance because someone is really going to love a sexy gift from you. If you’re not sure about a vibrator or dildo maybe try lube, a book or movie. Gift certificates are always well received, and show you really care.
Babeland’s advice on how to choose a toy for a gift
Babeland’s news and notes on gift guides
eXtremeRestraints gift guide This site also gives you the option to create a wishlist.
Delightful gifts and create a gift registry at Eden Fantasys
Sex Toy Spice Rack and organization
Have too many dildos? Stick ‘em on a spice rack!
Right now the cyber-dyke studio toys are sitting in piles on one of those metal baker’s shelves. With wheels. I have some large clear boxes that I intend to use for organizing the toys, but I haven’t gotten around to it yet. I also have a pile of toys to clean. But anyway, I’m one of those “out of sight out of mind” people, so if I can’t see it displayed on a shelf, rack or clear container I totally forget it exists. The spice rack looks like it would be really effective for managing the studio dildos. Though I do need to pick up a few new ones. We are sorely lacking a Nexus dildo. The last one we had was used until it fell apart, a noble death for a dildo.
Kegels
Kegel exercises help to strengthen your pubococcygeal muscle, which is the muscle that has all the fun during sex. They say that if you have a strong PC muscle you’ll experience strong orgasms. Babeland has some great information and tips on how to work that muscle!
How to Exercise Your PC Muscle
Silicone Sex Toys
A lot of sex toy stores will have inexpensive sex toys made from jelly rubber or some other sort of mystery jelly material. This material really isn’t safe. It will deteriorate quickly and the chemicals can be released in your body or in the air. It is also very difficult to keep these toys clean or sanitary. I’ve always thought they looked and felt weird and gross. Why bother with a jelly rubber toy that is potentially toxic and is going to deteriorate quickly when silicone toys are becoming more and more affordable. Silicone is safer and easier to clean. I think silicone toys feel better too. Check out Babeland’s really great list with all the reasons to buy silicone toys.
Sex Toy Tip Sheet
I can never remember how to clean and care for my toys, and half the time I can’t remember what material they are! No matter how many sex toys I have to care for or how often I clean them, I always need to refer back to my Babeland tip sheet. Their advice is excellent, and it’s online too! Check out their care and cleaning tips, and also tips for longer sex toy life and better sex!
Babeland Tip Sheet:
- Care and Cleaning:
–Non-porous Materials
–Porous Materials
–General Toy Care Tips
- G-Spot Tips
- P-Spot Tips (Prostate)
- Cock Ring Tips
- Anal Sex Tips
- Tips for Toys: Emotional Bliss Toys, Lucky 7, Snugglepuss, Pandora, Rabbit Habit, Lipstick, Fun Factory Toys, Onye, Silk Touch Egg, Form 6, Hummingbird, My Secret Vibe, Maia
Sex Toy Ban Hypocrisy in Alabama
Thanks to Babeland Blog for the news, the attorney general of Alabama who banned sex toys and was publicly very homophobic was caught by his wife in bed with another man. Not surprisingly, only only place this news is being reported is on gay news sites. No word on whether or not he had any sex toys. And the guy’s name is Troy King, which sounds like a porn name. I can’t get to the official Attorney General of Alabama website to see if they have an official press release or not. They’re probably getting a lot of traffic right now.
So here’s one more reason to not feel guilty about your sex life, anti-sex, homophobic politicians are doing the exact same things they decry!
In other news, Babeland is having a sale on Vixen Creations Silicone toys through the end of July.