Kegels
Kegel exercises help to strengthen your pubococcygeal muscle, which is the muscle that has all the fun during sex. They say that if you have a strong PC muscle you’ll experience strong orgasms. Babeland has some great information and tips on how to work that muscle!
How to Exercise Your PC Muscle
Silicone Sex Toys
A lot of sex toy stores will have inexpensive sex toys made from jelly rubber or some other sort of mystery jelly material. This material really isn’t safe. It will deteriorate quickly and the chemicals can be released in your body or in the air. It is also very difficult to keep these toys clean or sanitary. I’ve always thought they looked and felt weird and gross. Why bother with a jelly rubber toy that is potentially toxic and is going to deteriorate quickly when silicone toys are becoming more and more affordable. Silicone is safer and easier to clean. I think silicone toys feel better too. Check out Babeland’s really great list with all the reasons to buy silicone toys.
Sex Toy Tip Sheet
I can never remember how to clean and care for my toys, and half the time I can’t remember what material they are! No matter how many sex toys I have to care for or how often I clean them, I always need to refer back to my Babeland tip sheet. Their advice is excellent, and it’s online too! Check out their care and cleaning tips, and also tips for longer sex toy life and better sex!
Babeland Tip Sheet:
- Care and Cleaning:
–Non-porous Materials
–Porous Materials
–General Toy Care Tips
- G-Spot Tips
- P-Spot Tips (Prostate)
- Cock Ring Tips
- Anal Sex Tips
- Tips for Toys: Emotional Bliss Toys, Lucky 7, Snugglepuss, Pandora, Rabbit Habit, Lipstick, Fun Factory Toys, Onye, Silk Touch Egg, Form 6, Hummingbird, My Secret Vibe, Maia
Sex Toy Ban Hypocrisy in Alabama
Thanks to Babeland Blog for the news, the attorney general of Alabama who banned sex toys and was publicly very homophobic was caught by his wife in bed with another man. Not surprisingly, only only place this news is being reported is on gay news sites. No word on whether or not he had any sex toys. And the guy’s name is Troy King, which sounds like a porn name. I can’t get to the official Attorney General of Alabama website to see if they have an official press release or not. They’re probably getting a lot of traffic right now.
So here’s one more reason to not feel guilty about your sex life, anti-sex, homophobic politicians are doing the exact same things they decry!
In other news, Babeland is having a sale on Vixen Creations Silicone toys through the end of July.
Babeland: Queer Eye for the Sex Toy Buy
The brilliant folks over at Babeland.com wrote an excellent article about sex toys for queer folks for all genders. I’ve always found Babeland to be very queer-friendly and I know they want everyone to be able to enjoy sex.
Queer Eye for the Sex Toy Buy By Ann Whidden
New toys
Testing toys has been on the back burner for the past few weeks while I fixed up my poor little computer and caught up on video editing. Not to mention dealing with the pipes under the kitchen sink crumbling to pieces. Now that I have the video editing momentum going I can take some time to work on pumping out some toy reviews and posting more information. In fact, I’ve been talking with The Wet Spot radio about reviewing toys online and today I received a box of toys to review from Babeland. I think tonight I will be taking a long bath with the Nubby G, Odyssey Tickler or Aqua Wand. Maybe I should spring for a date with myself in a hot tub!
Nipple Clamps & the Pleasurable Pinch
My nipple clamps: I have a love/hate/love relationship with them. (Although to be honest, sometimes it’s more of a hate/love/hate relationship.) I am myself often profoundly passionately ambivalent, and my nipple clamps embody this dyadic intensity with exceptional and excruciating precision.
They’re a simple machine, really. Just two alligator clips yoked together by a slender chain. Some nipple clamps seem kinder with their adjustable screws set in their metal centers, but it’s a sham kindness really, for where the lies the gentleness so rests the cruelty. You can open the alligator mouths wider by manipulating the screw, but you can also make their jaws shut tight. Too wide and the clamps slip off your nipples erect and hard as pencil erasers. Too tight and, well, you can imagine.
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What people are saying about Smart Balls
Blogger reviews of Smart Balls
- Chelsea’s Review (tags: smart balls)
- Lolita Wolf’s Review (tags: smart balls)
- Stiletto Diaries Review (tags: smart balls)
- Jesse’s Webcam Stories Review (tags: smart balls)
- Roxxie’s Review at EdenFantasys.com (tags: smart balls)
Dildo Meditations
The alcoholic, bisexual, syphilitic and scary smart John Wilmot, Lord Rochester, penned the politically satirical “Signior Dildo” in 1673. The poem offers these lines:
When next you go thither to make your Selves Sweet, [10]
By Buying of Powder, Gloves, Essence, or So
You may Chance get a Sight of Signior Dildo.
You’ll take him at first for no Person of Note
Because he appears in a plain Leather Coat:
But when you his virtuous Abilities know [15]
You’ll fall down and Worship Signior Dildo.
Like most of Rochester’s poems, this one swerves seamlessly between anxious praise and painful derision, between the deeply personal and the abjectly political, between male and female, between heterosexuality and homosexuality, between just about every polar opposite you can imagine. Rochester was never a man to be easily pinned down, a facet that Johnny Depp plays up in his portrayal of Rochester in the filmic version of The Libertine. In this particular poem, however, the praised and derided, loved and hated, feared and desired, vexed object in question is the dildo.
The dildo is an ancient object. One found in a German cave dates back about 28,000 years, suggesting that we humans have been using tools to for pleasure since the ice age. Before their current silicone, stainless steel, pyrex and jelly incarnations, dildos were often carved from stone, ivory or wood, or fabricated by stuffing a leather pouch with rags, horsehair or other filler, which is the type that Rochester’s “Signior Dildo” evenhandedly celebrates and vilifies.
(One has to marvel at Rochester’s choice of the dildo as the tool upon which to skewer his political enemies. He is one dead mother-fucker I’d invite to the apocryphal dinner party.)
But enough of dusty dildo history. I write here today not to bury the dildo, but to praise it. I, as Rochester predicted of his reader, have fallen down and worshipped the dildo. I love my dildo, and I am not ashamed to admit it.
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What to do with your old sex toys?
- Recycling program in the UK (tags: )
- The sex toy cemetery (tags: )
Some Ways to Enjoy Your Girl Parts, pt.101
In some ways women get the short end of the stick when it comes to enjoying sex. While it’s true that some of us do get the benefit of being multi-orgasmic, most of us aren’t. And while it’s true that not only do we have the potential for many orgasms in one sexual session, and not only do studies prove that our orgasms longer-lasting and more intense than men’s orgasms, it’s also true that percentages of anorgasm in women have been so high that until recently, the inability to orgasm wasn’t considered a sexual dysfunction.
While I’m not saying that men have it easy in the sex department—especially men who have suffered sexual trauma, whether that trauma was emotional or physical—men’s biology makes it a bit easier for them to find pleasure and that our culture tends to be a bit more forgiving to men who like sex, at least to heterosexual men.
Our bodies don’t necessarily make it easy on us. Those recalcitrant sex organs tucked up, under, and away can play possum, and often as we lurch our ways toward pleasure, we may find that it’s like spelunking without a headlight. It’s often hard enough to discern what pleases us; it’s yet harder to give directions to someone else when we can’t even provide any kind of definitive road map. And on top of all of this, we’re often the unwitting bearer of sexual baggage—we learn to the bone the lessons we’ve been taught by culture and by experience that to experience sexual pleasure is, somehow, bad.
I’m not saying anything radically new to anyone who has ever opened a copy of Our Bodies/Our Selves, but I do think that it bears repeating: it’s your body and you can learn to enjoy it.
To that happy end, let me offer a few humble suggestions:
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How I came to Come
I started masturbating at around twelve. As far as I can remember, my orgasms then were kind of like a box lunch: contained, satisfying, pleasurable, sometimes even surprisingly so, but nothing to write home about. I certainly enjoyed them enough to rub myself raw in the process of procuring them. I enjoyed them enough to learn how to masturbate in such a way as to orgasm undetected while sleeping in a bunk in a roomful of other sleeping girls at camp (face down, breathing huskily into my pillow, pelvis pressing on my finger that ran ragged circles on my clit).
But these orgasms pale in comparison to the orgasms I have now when I masturbate, and they whimper and cower in the face of the orgasms I have with my lover. These were fledgling comings, and inasmuch as I knew nothing else, they were fine.
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